Episode 3 Show Notes:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Private School Leaders

Episode 003: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Private School Leaders


Links and Resources

  • CLICK HERE for the 45 minute webinar: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Private School Teachers" (Please use as a "Plug and Play PD")
  • Click here for Guided Notes for the Webinar

Habit #1: Be Proactive

  • Remember that YOU have the power to choose how you react to every situation.
  • “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankl
  • The BIG KEY here is that every day YOU CHOOSE whether you are a proactive person or a reactive person.
  • Every day YOU CHOOSE whether you are a proactive leader or a reactive leader at your private school. 
  • Reactive people complain. 
  • Complaining gives a person permission to put forth less effort.


Habit #2: Begin With The End In Mind

  • Think about what you want people to say about you at your funeral.
  • What will they say about you when they read your eulogy?
  • Remember that the first thing that you do when going on a trip is enter the destination into your GPS


Habit #3: Put First Things First

  • Remember the story of the jar, the big rocks, the pebbles, the sand and the water.
  • You must decide on your “big rocks” and put them in first.
  • Stop prioritizing things in your day and start scheduling your priorities.
  • Decide on your big rocks. Schedule them into your calendar. Treat them like a doctor’s appointment that took you six months to get.
  • As private school leaders we are always mistaking things that are urgent, but not important for things that are important and not urgent.


Habit #4: Think Win-Win

  • Life is not a zero sum game. For you to win, someone else does not have to lose.
  • Use courage and consideration so that all parties can benefit from your interactions with them.
  • Ways to “Think Win-Win”:
  • Display humility
  • Remember that life is an interdependent reality
  • Maintain a long term/big picture perspective
  • Am assertive
  • Use heavy doses of consideration and courage


Habit #5: Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood 

  • Listen for the real problem that is behind the first problem.
  • “The biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” George Bernard Shaw
  • We have to set aside agendas, ego, temper, the need to “be right” and just stop and try to be totally present and listen with every fiber of our being.


Habit #6: Synergize 

  • We can always accomplish more together than we can alone.
  • In 2013, The Harvard Business Review published research where they studied 60 teams within a large information processing company. In the study, the highest performing groups averaged 6 positive comments for every 1 negative comment and the lowest performing groups averaged just 1 positive comment for every 3 negative comments.
  • If we want to have synergy on our teams we need to:
  • Treat others with respect.
  • Emphasize positivity in the ways that our teams communicate with each other. 
  • Model respectful communication
  • Stay curious a little longer
  • The kids deserve the results that can come from strong teams.


Habit #7: Sharpen The Saw 

  • Your most important asset is you.
  • Always remember to put on your own oxygen mask first.
  • Make sure that self-care is one of your “big rocks” and schedule it into your calendar like we talked about in Habit #3 Put First Things First.
  • Start small. If you try to go from not sharpening your saw at all to doing a bunch of things, you will fail. Just pick one of these four areas: physical, social, mental or spiritual. Pick one area and pick one thing that you are going to do for 10 minutes a day. Do that for four weeks and then pick something to add to it.


Links and Resources

  • CLICK HERE for the 45 minute webinar: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Private School Teachers" (Please use as a "Plug and Play PD")
  • Click here for Guided Notes for the Webinar
  • Click here for 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Summary Video
  • Click here for The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (This is an affiliate link. If you purchase through this link, I get a commission of 4% of the price of the book to help defray the costs of the podcast and the website. You don’t have to use this link.)
  • Click here for “Put the Big Rocks In First” video
  • Harvard Business Review article on the “Ideal Praise to Criticism Ratio”
  • Music by Twisterium from Pixabay