Episode 56 Show Notes
8 things to do when you feel like giving up:
1 Remember that there is nothing wrong with you.
- Being a private school leader is REALLY HARD
- When you’re able to see the situation clearly, as it is, you give yourself an opportunity to make a choice about how to move forward.
- Acceptance is the opposite of giving up. It’s an active decision to meet life where it is and decide on your next step from there.
- Human being not a robot
- You are not weak, you are not a loser
2 Believe that there are ways to make it better.
- Hopeless to hope
- Is it even possible?
- Emotions: Amygdala hijack
- The things on this list will help you get to a point where you can be a little more logical
3 Lean into your why
- When it all feels hopeless, we need to remember why we are doing what we do
- Throwing Starfish
- Aspirational or practical?
- I have a mortgage and my kids need new shoes and Christmas is coming
- When you have to do a hard thing, you need a reason that is bigger than yourself.
- When you have to do a hard thing, you need a reason that is bigger than circumstances.
4 Practice Gratitude
- The last thing you feel like doing, best thing for you
- Take out a piece of paper
- Write down things that you’re grateful for
- When I do this: wife, each daughter, myself, health, home, 2 cars, job
5 Take a break
- You CAN run a car without any oil and it will run for a while. But then it will just stop.
- You can do the same thing to yourself, eventually you will just stop
- I told you about that Wednesday morning when I couldn't get out of bed.
- I stayed home that day.
- “I can’t just stay home.” “Impossible” “The school will fall apart if I’m not there.”
- I used to think that way: ulcers, mental health, relationships
- Don’t beat yourself up. It is just a day
- What if it were not a day, but it was 15 minutes?
- A brisk walk around campus
- Listening to your favorite song
- Reading something inspirational
6 Ask for help
- One of the hardest things for private school leaders to do
- Pride, ego, imposter syndrome
- I have it all together, I am superhuman, I am invincible
- Boss, (HOS or board president)
- Spouse or partner?
- Teacher (Keyboarding program)
- Therapist (Virginia)
7 Pick two energizers
- One thing that energizes you at school
- One thing that energizes you at home
- 15-30 minutes, SCHEDULE IT, DO IT
- 30 minutes is 5% of a 10 hour work day
- 30 minutes is 2% of a 24 hour day
- I really wish that I had more time to ________________
- I haven’t done _______________ in a really long time.
- It really fills me up and energizes me when I ____________________
- Coaching clients, baking bread, paddleball league, walk 3X/week
8 Look at your positive comments document
- Episode 37 Portfolio
- Positive comments Googledoc
- Read it
Call to Action
- The next time that you feel like giving up, get out a piece of paper and start writing down everything in your life that you are thankful for.
CLICK HERE for Episode 1: How To Go From SURVIVING to THRIVING
CLICK HERE for Episode 13: How Gratitude Can Make You A Happier And More Effective Leader
CLICK HERE for Episode 37: This ONE THING ill Make You A Happier And Better Compensated Leader
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